Archive for March, 2010

The calm before the storm…

Posted by KK on Monday, 22 March, 2010

…I used this reference while chatting with a friend just days before we took in our three foster boys referring to the quiet and very calm atmosphere we were enjoying at home and wondering when DCS would call with a potential placement. The storm definitely came and now it has passed. Now I feel like I am about to crash. Managing a family of eight isn’t easy but with a little obsessive planning and nagging of everyone to keep up their responsibilities it can flow very smoothly and it did for four months. Now that I am back down to a family of five I can’t seem to keep up. I know it’s a personality issue with myself. Unless I am so busy that I can’t find time to pee I find myself in a tailspin not capable of managing just a little. Since the boys left last Monday I have gotten very behind in laundry, cleaning, school lessons with the boys….the list goes on and on. I feel compelled to get things back in order because at any moment DCS could call but I just can’t move. Maybe I am a little depressed. Maybe I am just resting for the first time in many months. All I find myself thinking about while I wait and tote around my phone like it’s a life saving device is that right now there are children being neglected. Being abused. Hungry. Being born to addicts. Our future son or daughter is one of these children. I didn’t really think about this before our previous placements. It’s all I think about now. I think about what L was going through just hours prior to her parents being arrested and DCS picking her up. I think about the living conditions in which A, T & J were battling just before they were removed and placed with us. When I worry, I can’t function normally. All I find myself doing lately is worrying what our little ones are going through right now for a sub-standard government system to have to remove them from their home today or tomorrow or next week. The system’s standards are so much lower than mine and yours because it has to be or so many more children would be in custody. So when a child is removed it is a big deal. I look at my boys laying around reading or playing with their toys in their safe home and it brings tears to my eyes that this isn’t the norm. I find myself praying all day every day for our little ones to stay safe. Will you join me? Please begin to pray now for our future adopted sons or daughters that they carry a shield of protection over them until they are delivered to us. Thank you!

Big weekend…

Posted by KK on Wednesday, 10 March, 2010

Surely the photo below doesn’t break any privacy rules we agreed to since it doesn’t show any faces. I guess we’ll find out. I just wanted to share one photo of our boys’ first trip to the zoo this past Saturday. Our foster boys, that is. They have never been. They also went to a birthday party on Sunday at Pump-It-Up, or as our biological sons would call it, the “coolest place on earth”. They had a big weekend of firsts and a lot of fun. They were so tired at the end of each day. We learned just yesterday that they are leaving us on Monday so we’re happy we were able to squeeze in those fun things last weekend.We are devastated to say the least. We knew this day would likely come but not at such a short notice. I had conveyed to many of you that there was a meeting today to determine the future of our boys and I want to thank you all for praying like I know you have. Perhaps this is an answer to those prayers and I know that we aren’t always supposed to be pleased with the outcomes. The boys are going to live with their grandmother in Sweetwater. There are many, including myself, at DCS and CPS who are fuming over the outcome of today’s meeting because so many think it is a huge mistake to let them go now before the grandmother takes care of things on her end. God is in control of all so who are we to question the results.

Please keep all our boys in your prayers this week…pray that our foster boys will transition smoothly to their grandmother’s house. Pray that AJ will have a smooth transition to his new school as his grandmother is switching him on Monday to Sweetwater Elementary School. Pray that Tyler and Jordan will just be happy. Please pray for our boys and especially River…he and Tyler have become very big buds and are inseparable all day every day. Most of all, just pray for AJ, Tyler & Jordan that they will be set apart from all the statistics and triumph over this very bad hand they have been dealt. They are all very sweet, smart & loving little boys and all have an amazing future. I pray we have given them just a glimpse of Christ while they have lived with us and please pray that their grandmother begins taking them to church.